3 Essential Elements to Creating a Vibrant Relationship

Over the years we?ve experienced the highs and lows that come with being in an intimate relationship. When we first met, everything about our relationship was fantastic. The initial interactions and conversations were captivating and lasted into the early morning. After a considerable number of years had past we noticed that sometimes we each felt a little flat and that we wanted more for our relationship. Each time we noticed that, we would put our attention on our relationship and lo and behold it would improve. And we?ve kept wanting more. Wanting to evolve ourselves, feel really passionate about life and have a positive impact on the world around us. For us, this is all possible inside a vibrant relationship. As we continue our journey of creating vibrant relationship we see that certain elements have a greater impact than others.

There are three things that help to create a vibrant relationship that won?t be changing anytime soon and should form the foundation of your current or future intimate relationship.

The absolute bedrock of a solid vibrant relationship is appreciation. Relationship expert John Gottman has conducted extensive research and has determined that successful relationships contain five times as many appreciations as complaints and criticisms. The appreciations don?t need to be life altering or stupendous, they simply need to be heart felt and sincere. For example, Jane recently appreciated the color of Bob?s hair and how it has a beautiful salt and pepper aspect to it that she really enjoys, while Bob appreciated Jane for sorting the laundry into color piles so he could do the laundry without worrying about which colors were safe with which. Start off with at least 2 in person appreciations each day and 1 via text, email or phone. After doing this for a month it will become a conscious pattern that will surely show up in how you feel about each other.

The second essential element is commitment to the relationship and each other. One of our key commitments is committing to see each other as allies. Having this relationship commitment plays an especially big role when one of us hears a comment as critical or controlling. When the receiver remembers that the communicator is their ally and as such comes from an intention of love and support, the criticism filters fade quickly into the past. This then integrates with the third element.

The third requirement for creating a vibrant relationship is being open to learning in every relationship interaction. We now realize that every time we interact we are creating an opportunity to learn about the other, our relationship and ourselves. By being open to learning and discovery we open ourselves to becoming avidly aware of who we are, what our central repeating patterns are and why we show up in the world the way we do. Once we achieve a significant level of self-awareness we are then able to make choices that align with who we truly want to be and how we want to experience our life.

Creating a vibrant relationship has many advantages, ranging from adding up to 10 years to a man?s life expectancy and up to 4 years for women, to modeling the way relationships can be for our children so they learn reliable methods for creating a vibrant relationship when it becomes their turn. Never underestimate the power of being in a vibrant relationship and you?ll experience one of life?s greatest gifts: to love and be loved.

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